7 Traits to Get a Man to Want You

get a man to marry you“How do you get a man to want you?”  Is this a burning question inside you?  Are you interested in turning that relationship into a commitment or even marriage, but not sure how to help nudge your guy in that direction?  Here are 7 tips to get a man to want you as provided by Dr. Val Farmer from The Pilot – Independent.

Now, I have to tell you right up front that this information is actually based on the concept of what a man looks for in a marriage.  But if you think about it, don’t the two topics go hand in hand?  After all, if you can display these traits while you’re dating, wouldn’t that show him what you have to offer when he puts that ring on your finger and says, “I do.”

I have to admit, having read these tips, they are so common sense related that it didn’t seem like they would need to be pointed out.  However, since women and men come from different worlds, (remember the book, “Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars?), and can’t really seem to communicate in the same language, then it makes sense that these traits need to be identified so you’ll know how to get a man to want you.

(These concepts are broken down and spelled out in pretty well in this videoYou can hear it from an expert himself who lays out this information with some really easy to understand examples.)

I would have to say of the 7 traits, the last one is the one I would have to agree with most…and the one that worked best for me in my relationships.  It was also a key factor for my sisters and friends when it came to getting a man interested.

Here are the 7 traits:

• Be less critical. Men feel they’re often on the defensive and “wrong” just for voicing an opinion that doesn’t match their girlfriends’ expectations and standards. They want a feeling of teamwork, cooperation, and a more legitimate discussion of issues in their relationships.

• Accept him for what he is —imperfect. He needs to be accepted as he is with his own legitimate interests and hobbies. Take advantage of his strengths and good points. Men want appreciation, probably for the things they are doing for the family. Reinforce and reward the things you appreciate him doing.

• Don’t make every issue between you a fight to the death. Some quirks and differences you can live with. Trying to change him adds to his and your frustration and resentment.

• The home should be a refuge, not a place where he faces a barrage of criticism and conflict. How strongly and frequently you are judgmental of him may shut him down or trigger an emotional response that exacerbates the problem.

• Forget the past. Husbands feel that some past hurts and blunders in the relationship aren’t left alone. They feel matters they think are resolved are brought up unfairly in fights. “Let the dead stay buried.” Forgive mistakes. Don’t bear grudges. Don’t bring up the past unless it pertains to a current problem.

• Be supportive of work and leisure activities. Men want their wives to understand that work obligations occasionally take precedence over family needs. Some of their priorities are out of their control.  Men would like understanding and appreciation for the work pressures and responsibilities they face. A man’s work accomplishments and struggles need to be recognized and supported.

• They also want acceptance for their occasional need to be alone or to pursue their personal interests.

• Be nurturing. Giving emotional support, respect, attention, soothing and meeting his needs makes coming home special. Family meals together give more than bodily nourishment.

In homes where there is confusion, disorganization, anger or emotional distance, men don’t do well. The family doesn’t do well. This isn’t a rehashing of stone-age advice on how to please a boyfriend or even husband…”shut up and wait on them.” No.  It’s more the concept that mutual roles need to be clarified, understood and negotiated.

If you’re working outside of the home, this is a two-way street. He has a supportive role to play also. But the nurturing and caring still needs to take place. What we are talking about is caring, not care taking. In the era of women’s greater involvement outside of the home, the baby shouldn’t be thrown out with the bath water.

• Verbalize needs. Men don’t like being judged or criticized for not doing something they “should have known.” There are times when they just “don’t get it.” They want their girlfriends’ expectations spelled out — the more detail, the better. Don’t expect him to read your mind. Be clear and spell out exactly what you want and expect from him.

• Be a friend. Men want a safe haven, a best friend where they can unburden themselves and be accepted for who they are. They want to be able to share emotions and know their thoughts and feelings will be kept confidential. Companionship, affection and romance are important. They want a friend who can take their side and is supportive of their struggles.

• Take responsibility for your own happiness. Don’t expect your husband to solve all your problems. If you depend on him to make you happy and always do the thoughtful, loving or right thing, you will be disappointed.

If you are insecure or unhappy with yourself, you’ll have a tendency to put strong and unrealistic demands on the relationship. Over time, unhealthy dependency breeds hostility and resentment.

The last point is such an important part of being in a healthy relationship. Some people I love struggle with this and it pains me to see. Ladies we need to find our own happiness before we can be happy!

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4 Responses to “7 Traits to Get a Man to Want You”

  1. Shannon Lynn says:

    Very good points.. The problem has been solved with these interesting points.

  2. Jacob says:

    Thanks for the great tips, I will definitely be sending my girlfriend to this page. Maybe she can learn a thing or two!

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